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结婚后经常去旅行有多重要? How important is it to travel frequently after getting married?

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我一直觉得我妈的人生特别圆满。

 

她50多岁,身材依旧苗条,作为母亲,和我爸恩爱了几十年,生有一儿一女。作为老师,桃李天下,每年来给她拜年的人络绎不绝。在所有认识人眼里,我妈就是成功女性的典范。我妈也老说,自己这一生,没什么遗憾的事情。

 

但是有一天,吃完晚饭后,她像往常一样在拖地。电视上正放着一个国家的旅游广告。她突然停下来,饶有兴趣地看完,轻轻说了一句:“好想和你们一起去呀。然后就又去拖地了。

 

不知道为什么,我心里突然酸了一下。并且意识到,其实我妈是一个特别喜欢玩的女人。做饭时都唱着歌手舞足蹈,一到周末就老想招呼大家去新开的馆子尝尝鲜。

 

她也是一个特别热爱旅行的人,她常常给我讲姥爷姥姥带小时候的她周游全国的经历,也告诉我女孩子一定要去和爱的人多旅行。

 

可是,自从结了婚,有了我们,我妈好像从来没离开过家里一步。那刻我才发现,我妈不是没有遗憾,只是没有人在意罢了。

 

一个女人,无论在多大年纪,生活看起来多么完美,心中都会住着一个梦想和爱人一起去旅行的小女孩。

 

海子说,你来人间一趟,你要看看太阳。和你的心上人,一起走在街上。

 

爱TA就一定要带TA去旅行。

 

结婚前旅行是检验两个人能不能走下去的最好手段。旅行里暴露出的生活问题会时时在考验恋爱中的双方,对还没经历过油盐酱醋过的情侣来说,应该早起去多看看景点还是干脆睡个懒觉的选择问题都会被放大为“你我的世界观是否契合”。

 

对方性格如何,脾气好坏,遇到问题是否懂得解决,是否体贴会照顾人,这些问题都会在旅行中体现。能不能相处下去,或者说,愿不愿意和这个人相处,就是看旅行中,彼此的耐心。

 

结婚后经常去旅行有多重要? How important is it to travel frequently after getting married?

 

如果你婚前扛过了旅行考验,那婚后更要经常去旅行。

 

我们常常说,一个女人的婚姻好不好,看她的脸就知道,我每次看高圆圆和赵又廷结婚后,变得越发有气质和韵味,尤其是在她出去旅行的照片里,一笑一颦都特别迷人。

 

她喜欢旅游,而每当她在微博里发出旅行的照片,总会有很多人开玩笑评论说:姑父呢?

 

有人问赵又廷:为什么难得不拍戏还要跟着圆圆满世界到处跑?

 

赵又廷说:“她想去哪里,我就会陪她去哪里。

 

在当时的评论里,我看到这么一句话:婚姻其实并不可怕,而是把婚姻当坟墓的人,他们自打结婚后,就哪儿也不去,活活把自己钉死在家里。

 

我见过很多男人结了婚之后,在外出轨偷腥;

我见过很多女人结了婚之后,只会围着孩子转;

我也见过这些结了婚的男男女女,整天抱怨家中的一切。

 

他们站在过来人的立场,一口一个“坟墓”,告诉我们婚姻生活有多么可怕,有多么平淡和乏味,说这就是现实。

 

我想起毕业那年我那位人事部主管,她34岁,看上去跟27、28岁没什么差别,笑容灿烂,和老公结婚9年。

 

当我实习转正刚入职的时候,听闻这位人事部主管离职了,原因是公司面临融资扩张的关键节点,不给她批假期出去旅游。

 

我做转正述职报告那天,就是她在公司最后一天。在会议室里,她问我:“如果有一天,工作有可能严重影响到你的生活,你会怎么选择?

 

我特别讨好公司地说:“没有钱就无法生活,工作比生活重要。”她淡淡地笑了笑,然后说:“好,你的述职报告已经做完了,之后会有人来通知你结果”从那之后,我就再也没有见过她。

 

后来听公司的同事说,她和她老公,约好了一年至少得有一次出国旅行,那时我刚大学毕业,我无法理解旅行对她和她老公来说怎么会这么重要。

 

一直到后来,我看到我身边很多人结婚,然后理所当然的把生活过得食之无味时,我才知道她当初为什么如此捍卫她和老公出去旅行的权利。

 

两个人就算当年爱得再激烈,总会在生活中的某一个阶段,发现生活会陷入某种乏味和琐碎,爱情在烟火油腻中,模糊了容颜,磨损了热情。既然我们愿意为了柴米油盐酱醋茶去隐忍自己,为什么不愿意为了琴棋书画诗酒茶去喘口气呢?

 

你们不用再只谈论纸尿布、咒骂上司、清算账单,你们放松下来,可以回忆一下过去的美好时光,曾经有过的梦想,那些久违的甜蜜,会重新爬上心头。

 

也许,在繁重琐碎中,我们早就懂得了生活的真相,但我们依旧要选择相信爱;我们早就了解彼此的弱点,却不会放弃将要陪我一生的人。

 

可能这就是,婚姻有千不好万不好,大家还都想找一人终老的原因吧。

 

如果你爱孩子,就带TA去旅行。

 

我的朋友谢可慧写过一段故事,那年她去欧洲旅行的时候,碰到一对中国父子。父亲因为出差,带着孩子一路游历欧洲城市,孩子的父亲好像是一个海归博士,你可以感受到他身上的那种平和和从容,见过世面。

 

这个父亲说了一段话,让她印象深刻,他说:“我总觉得,我们那一代人,是有贫穷基因的,没有良好的物质条件,也没出去见过世面。这样的基因,是囿于自身以及上一代人的局限。

 

所以,一直到成年之后,都会有一种对生活的不安全,希望拼命赚钱,希望出人头地,拼命地用物质装点自己。而我希望,下一代人,不会是这样。

 

所以,他尽可能多的让孩子去看外面的世界,见外面的人。他的孩子今年十岁,衣着朴实,会坐长途巴士去巴黎,也可以与人用英语流利地交谈,低调而内敛。

 

很久之前,我读过海明威的一句话。

 

“如果你足够幸运,年轻时候在巴黎居住过,那么此后无论你到哪里,巴黎都将一直跟着你。”

 

每个城市都有它自己的气质,它会在你的年幼期影响你,改变你,告诉你生活原来还有这么多活法。

 

结婚后经常去旅行有多重要? How important is it to travel frequently after getting married?

 

知乎上有一个问题,去过100个以上的国家是种什么样的体验。有一个答案点赞最高。

 

“懂得了这世界上没有所谓天然正确和绝对政治正确,能够接受别人有不同的三观以及其衍生出来的思考方式。”在这个充满偏见,不理解,甚至一见不同便恶言相向的时代,能够接受别人有不同的三观,不同的活法,是多么重要的事情。

 

等孩子真的长大后她就会明白不是三十岁一定要结婚,男人不是一定要有钱有势才叫成功。如果你爱你的孩子,一定要带TA去旅行。

 

让TA去看看,这个世界有多好,让TA在最天真纯洁的时候,把孩子对每个城市的美好记忆,深深地刻在脑海里。长大了,就算碰到什么不如意,他怎么会放弃生活呢?

 

如果你爱生活,就去旅行。

 

微博上曾有一段转发过百万的话——当你盯着电脑时,阿拉斯加的鳕鱼正跃出水面;当你愁眉发呆时,梅里雪山的金丝猴刚好爬上树尖;当你挤地铁时,西藏的云鹰直入云端;

 

当你与上司争吵时,尼泊尔的背包客已端起酒杯围在火堆旁。这个世界,有一些穿高跟鞋走不到的路,有一些喷着香水闻不到的空气,有一些在写字楼里永远遇不见的人……

 

很多人把一切怪罪于生活,推责给现实,所以年纪轻轻,就活生生死在“家”里。

 

婚姻,家庭,生活的确很现实,我们每一个人活在这个世上,也都会面临各种各样的压力。

 

你看起来那些婚姻美满的家庭,可能夫妻两个已经整整一年没怎么说话,你看起来那些年纪轻轻就当上创始人CEO的八零九零后,可能每天都在深夜为了下一笔融资辗转反侧。

 

我就见过当地的老板开着豪车,住着别墅,谁又知道他欠了银行几千万想偷偷自杀呢?网上看到一句话,谁不是一边热爱生活,一边想死呢?

 

我不敢说婚姻到底是不是坟墓,可我知道,生活就是一个从出生便开始就走向坟墓的过程。

 

生活是无法真正逃离的,就像一段曾经许下承诺要牵手到老的婚姻一样,它会细水长流陪伴两个人一直到老,我们不能每一次琐碎的吵架就想着离婚,不能面对不再有激情的伴侣就想着分道扬镳,不能把两个人活生生绑在家里不能动弹。

 

也就像生活在这个世界上的每一个我们,身上都肩负着不同的压力,能说出一万个走不开的理由,可我们不能永远不停下来看看,不能被生活限制在一个狭小的空间里,不能年纪轻轻就被现实绑住手脚。

 

哪怕我们都知道旅行只是暂时的逃离,哪怕我们也知道回来之后,还是要去面对生活的琐碎和压力。可无论是顺水推舟也好,逆流而上也罢,最终,我们都必须和水达成和解,我明白生活里的苦难,可我依然深深爱着它,这才是生活的意义。


I have always felt my mother's life is particularly successful.


Her 50 years old, still slim figure, as a mother, and my dad love for decades, gave birth to a child and a woman. As a teacher, peach myriad, every year to her new year people flocked. In the eyes of all people know, my mother is a model of successful women. My mother is also old that their own life, no regrets of things.


But one day, after dinner, she was as usual in the mopping. TV is on a country's travel advertising. She suddenly stopped, looked at with interest, gently said: "I want to go with you." Then they went to the ground.


Do not know why, my heart suddenly sour a bit. And realize that, in fact, my mother is a particularly fond of playing a woman. When cooking are singing dancers, one to the weekend to greet you to the new restaurant to taste fresh.


She is also a special love of travel, she often told me that grandpa grandmother with a child when she traveled the country's experience, but also told me that girls must go and love people travel.


However, since the married, with us, my mother seems to have never left home step. At that moment I found that my mother is not no regrets, but no one care about it.


A woman, no matter how old, life looks so perfect, the heart will live with a dream and love to travel with the little girl.


Haizi said, you come to earth trip, you have to look at the sun. And your sweetheart, walking together in the street.


Love TA must take TA to travel.


Travel before marriage is the best way to test whether two people can walk. Travel problems exposed in life will always test the two sides in love, not experienced the oil and soy sauce pasta couple, should go early to see more attractions or simply sleep a Lanjue choice problems will be enlarged For "whether your world view is fit".


How the other character, temper is good or bad, encounter problems whether to understand, whether considerate will take care of these people will be reflected in the trip. Can get along, or that is willing to get along with this person, is to see the travel, each other's patience.


How important is it to travel frequently after getting married? How important is it going to travel after after getting married?


If you have traveled before the trip test, it is more often to travel after marriage.


We often say that a woman's marriage is good, to see her face to know, every time I see the high round and Zhao and Ting married, become more and more temperament and charm, especially in her travel photos, laughing frown Especially charming.


She likes to travel, and whenever she sent a photo in the microblogging, there will always be a lot of people jokingly commented: uncle it?


Some people asked Zhao Youting: why do not shoot still have to follow the round of the world around running around?


Zhao said: "where she wants to go, I will accompany her where to go.


In the comments at the time, I saw such a sentence: marriage is not terrible, but the marriage as a grave, they are married, where they do not go, live their own crucified at home.


    
I've seen a lot of men get married and get out of the way.

    
I have seen a lot of women married, only around the child turn;

    
I have seen these married men and women, all day complaining about everything at home.


They stand in the position of the people, a "grave", tell us how terrible marriage life, how dull and boring, that this is the reality.


I think of graduating that year my staff department director, she was 34 years old, looks 27,28 years old no difference, smile bright, and her husband married for 9 years.


When I was in the beginning of the internship, I heard that the head of the personnel department left, because the company is facing the key to the expansion of financing nodes, do not give her holiday travel.


I did the day of the report, that was her last day of the company. In the meeting room, she asked me: "If one day, the work may seriously affect your life, how would you choose?"


"I can not live without money and work is more important than life," she said softly, and then said, "Well, your report has been done, and then someone will tell you the result." Since then, I have never seen her again.


Later, the company's colleagues said she and her husband, made an appointment at least once a year to travel abroad, when I just graduated from college, I can not understand the travel to her and her husband how it would be so important.


Until then, I saw a lot of people around me get married, and then of course the life of the tasteless life, I know why she had so defended her and her husband out of the right to travel.


Two people even if the love was so intense, always in a certain stage of life, found that life will fall into a kind of boring and trivial, love in the fireworks greasy, blurred the face, worn warm. Since we are willing to tea and vinegar tea to forbear yourself, why do not want to poetry and painting poetry and tea to take a breath?


You do not have to talk about paper diapers, curse boss, liquidation bills, you relax, you can recall the past good times, there have been dreams, those long lost sweet, will re-climb my heart.


Perhaps, in the heavy trivial, we have long understood the truth of life, but we still have to choose to believe in love; we have long known each other's weaknesses, but will not give up people who will accompany my life.


Maybe this is, marriage is not bad any bad, we still want to find a reason for the end of it.


If you love children, take TA to travel.


My friend Xie Kehui wrote a story, that year when she traveled to Europe, met a pair of Chinese father and son. Father because of travel, with children traveling all the way to travel to the European city, the child's father seems to be a returnees, you can feel the kind of peace and calm, seen the world.


"I always feel that our generation is a poor gene, there is no good material conditions, did not go out to see the world. This gene is caught," said the father, said the words, so that she was impressed, he said: In their own and the limitations of the previous generation.


So, until adulthood, there will be a kind of insecurity of life, hoping to make money, hoping to succeed, desperately with their own decorations. And I hope that the next generation will not be the case. "


So he as much as possible to let the children go to the outside world, see the people outside. His children are ten years old, plain clothes, take a long bus to Paris, but also with people in English fluent conversation, low-key and introverted.


A long time ago, I read Hemingway's words.


"If you are lucky enough to live in Paris at a young age, then you will always follow you wherever you go."


Every city has its own temperament, it will affect you in your young age, change you, tell you the original life there are so many live law.


How important is it to travel frequently after getting married? How important is it going to travel after after getting married?


Know there is a problem, to more than 100 countries is what kind of experience. There is an answer point to praise the highest.


"Understand the world is not the so-called natural correct and absolute political correct, able to accept other people have different three views and their derived from the way of thinking." In this full of prejudice, do not understand, even see the difference will be different , Able to accept others have different three views, different living law, how important things.


Such as children really grow up after she will understand that not three years old must be married, men do not have to be rich and powerful is called success. If you love your child, be sure to take TA to travel.


Let TA go to see how good the world, so that TA in the most innocent and pure when the children of each city's beautiful memories, deeply engraved in my mind. Grow up, even if encountered unhappy, how could he give up life?


If you love life, go and travel.


There is a million on the microblogging over a million words - when you stare at the computer, Alaska's cod is leaping out of the water; when you frown, the Meili Snow Mountain monkey just climbed the tree; when you squeeze the subway, The Cloud Eagle in Tibet goes straight into the clouds;


When you quarreled with your boss, the Nepalese backpackers had put a glass of wine around the fire. The world, there are some ways to wear high heels can not get away, there are some sprinkled with perfume smell the air, there are some people in the office never met ... ...


Many people blame all life, blame to reality, so young, living and living in the "home".


Marriage, family, life is indeed very realistic, each of us living in this world, will also face a variety of pressure.


You look like those happy family of marriage, may have two couples have not talk about a whole year, you look at those who are young when the founder of the CEO's 809, may be late every night for the next Financing tossing and turning.


I have seen the local boss driving a luxury car, living in the villa, who knows he owed the bank tens of millions want to secretly commit suicide? Online to see a word, who is not the side of love life, while want to die?


I can not say that marriage is not a grave in the end, but I know that life is a process from the beginning of the birth to the grave.


Life can not really escape, like a promised promise to hand to the old marriage, it will keep pace with two people have been to the old, we can not every trivial quarrel on the idea of ​​divorce, can not face no longer Passionate partner is thinking of parting ways, can not put two people alive and tied at home can not move.


It is like living in this world every one of us, who are carrying a different pressure, can say ten thousand inseparable from the reasons, but we can not stop to see, can not be limited to life in a small Of the space, can not be gently tied to the reality of the hands and feet.


Even if we all know that travel is only temporary escape, even if we also know that after coming back, or to face the trivial and stress of life. Whether it is a matter of course, counter-current worth mentioning, and ultimately, we must reach a settlement with the water, I understand the suffering of life, but I still deeply in love with it, this is the meaning of life.

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